all the wrong way

it is clear to me that it is time for a change.. but i am going about it the wrong way...
my mom.. has a new friend which we had an argument with on sunday.. to me the man is a bit below our level.. not being mean about it.. but he had an argument with my 13 year old brother yesterday (my sister calls it a Sesame Street Argument) about wether the letter "A: was a vowel or constatant.. and yes he said Constatant.. he is supposedly a teacher.. but i distinctly remember learning back in NY when i was but a little J.. with the opn court method.. singing.. Block A, Block A,,A A A... uhmmm we were always taught A was a vowel.. IF there has been a change.. let me know. but this is one of many arguments.. My sis and i need to move seriously.. This is crazy. and this is where i am going about this whole thing wrong.. While we need to leave like now.. instead of handling this situation properly.. Talking is out of the question.. and apparently.. my mother has been talking to my grandmother/ b/c she keeps telling me to call her.. So while the lady won't talk to her own children, she will talk to her new man and to her mother.. therefore excluding her seeds.. uhmm.. i see a major problem.. so she shouldn't really be upset that we don't come home at night... and go blabbing it to your mother.. which is just speculation.. i just talked to my grandmother on thursday.. it seems a bit odd to me that it'd be urgent for me to talk to her again so soon... but like the oldest grandchild that i am.. i will call her today.. what the hell.. nothing is making sense anymore anyway..