do you always listen to what the people say?

i have been told on 2 seperate occasions from 2 different "men" that i think to much. that i overanalyze.. That i am detail oriented. And while it was a trait that was admired in me.. apparently.. when i want to know the details of someone's life as they pertain to my own.. i am annoying?

You tell me what you would think if the person you have spent mad emotional energy and time on for almost a year told you that you were a nice person.. So i think too much?? I don't want to hear that i am a nice person.. I know i am a nice person.. lets be honest.. if i was a bitch.. i would have stopped doubting what exist and left your happy ass a long time ago.. But no.. i am a nice girl... and i needed clarification.. and i thought there was nothing wrong with that.. b/c my life needs definition.. and i need to know how to relate to people who are involved in my realm.. you just cant ignore me for weeks on end and think i understand, when we only have brief phone conversations, spend no time and recently had an arguement.. no i dont know that you still care about me when the last time we talked.. you were telling me how fed up you were with me.. and yes.. i think it's important to know why you are so busy that you have no time to see me.. maybe if know what keeps you so occupied.. i can make sense of it.. and re-occupy my time, so i'm not waiting for you to remember me.. b/c your in the studio, or taking ministry classes, or at another session.... That i understand.. it is what i signed up for when i met a musician was it not? so i guess i also signed up for this emotional male ish... i didn't know.. i need notice.. give me all the details.. so that i don't call 12 times a day.. and become that other bitch in your life.. give me the details.. so that i have no questions.. so yes.. i guess... i think too much.. when you give me time and space to think and make up my own stories.. yes i think too much. when you have not called me to tell me otherwise.. i will think.. until.. you get fed up with my crazy messages and let me know the real deal.. and then.. i stop calling.. like that.. all i wanted was some attention.. and now that i've gotten a little bit of it.. i am content a little bit.. now i can focus on something else.. until something else pops.. up .. and i need more details..