fact of life #27 : No one knows your story like you do!

fact of life # 27 no one knows your story like you do. ..

this may be overstating the obvious.. but many people get upset when people don't... "feel" them.. and i have to say.. it's impossible to make people understand you the way you know you.. or make them see things, the way you do. It's clearly evident in family life. espeically where you have children who grew up in the same household... No matter how many kids you have and their distance or closeness.. they never remember childhood, or their parents exactly the same. My sister and brother and I have many shared experiences.. that we can all tell from our own perspectives and not one of us ever really relates to any situation in the same manner.

My brother is the sensitive one, my sister is dubbed the "mean" one.. Me, I'm not sure what the call me.. but i'm silly and the oldest. Our roles are all different. I being the oldest always have to be in control of things. Even when i didn't want to be. I spent my childhood fighting the leadership role, cuz i didn't want it. But i was always made responsible for my actions and my siblings. Picking them up, taking them places, making sure they were fed , homework was done and the house was clean b4 my parents came home.. That was my role, so my view will always be a bit skewed.. cuz i will feel that things were unfair. I know for sure I was the test dummy. (They tried out all their things on me first and then the slackness came in with each succeeding child)

My sister is the middle one, she has middle child syndrome. She was fine until my little brother came along. But then her Light was snuffed out and she was no longer the cutest or the youngest... She often feels neglected...

My brother is the youngest and the only boy. So he gets mad attention and made leeway... life to him seems mad easy and he often gets his way.. and is rarely made to feel like he is pushed to the side..

so because of this.. we all see life differently.. it happens in every family.. you can't lie CRAIG!

so with this... in your own family everyone seeing thier own view.. You can't really expect people from the outside looking in to really udnerstand what goes in on the inside.. They can try, They can pretend to know cuz they have had a smiliar occurence.. but they will NEVER understand it the way you do..

In a case such as this.. You cannot make someone see your way it's a moot point and a waste of time. You can let them know your view and when your dealing with people who are adamant that their way it THE way.. well let them walk away thinking that is the case.. cuz in the end you know the real deal and in the end you know what you have to do with your stuff. Make it work the best way you can for you and after that.. when nosey people come around asking questions.. smile and walk away... they won't understand.. Really ;) !